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The Heart of the Issue

by Deliciously Organic on December 18, 2012


After the events last Friday in Connecticut, I didn’t want to post about cookies or Christmas cheer. People are asking, “How do we stop these ‘random acts of violence’?” When it comes to health, I always advocate looking for the source of the problem. For example, when my daughters had eczema, instead of putting a steroid cream on the wound day after day, I searched for the cause of their skin irritation. I discovered my kids needed more nourishing foods. Once we fed them nourishing foods for a period of time, the eczema disappeared. When looking at what is happening to our culture and the many acts of violence experienced recently, we ask “How can we stop the violence?” We could build higher fences around schools. Like the steroid cream, this might provide some relief. But would it get to the heart of the issue? I don’t really think so. We could impose stronger limits on gun ownership, something I don’t oppose at all, but would this address the source of the problem? I’m not convinced.

So what is the heart of the issue? I think we should focus on what’s going on in our homes, and in our hearts and minds. Many people are hurting and feel like they have no one on their side. I think we all acknowledge the situation, but what actions can we take which will help?

Dr. William Dodson was the superintendent of Pearl Public Schools in Jackson, Mississippi when a student took the lives of nine other students. He recently wrote a book titled, If Only I Had Known which covers the strategy he’s found which has stopped countless attacks. It’s a moving book and answers his question, “What could we have done to prevent the attack?”

Dr. Dodson learned about the strategy from Mr. Dan Korem. Mr. Korem, author of The Rage of the Random Actor, has been training schools, law enforcement, the military, and businesses how to prevent attacks before they happen. He developed the Missing Protector Strategy for at-risk youths and a profiling system designed to help people like us identify those who might decide to hurt the people around them. This is a behavioral profile – one that has been used to thwart the impulse to commit catastrophic acts in schools, organizations, neighborhoods and in combat. Mr. Korem identified a three-point intervention that “takes the wires apart” so a rage-filled person with the Random Actor traits doesn’t “detonate” – and doesn’t want to hurt those around them. This intervention also guides a person out of the Random Actor profile without racial, ethnic, or gender stereotyping. And it works.

Rage of the Random Actor

Just like with our health, I think we can all benefit from researching possible root causes, taking charge of our own actions, and making deliberate efforts to change. As we all deliberate our actions in light of Friday’s attack, may I suggest a few options? You may consider reading about the roots of our current wave of violence, starting or joining a program to help at-risk individuals, or getting training for your school or organization. Mr. Korem offers guidance in his books and offers training for school districts, among others. For schools, the training is inexpensive, often only $1.50 per child.

Right now we all want to take action, and I truly believe this kind of training can help save lives. So while we look around for answers, let’s look for the root cause, take the time to learn, and reach out to those around us. What better time than during the Christmas season – a season of hope?

 

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Joshua @ SlimPalate December 18, 2012 at 3:22 pm

You know Carrie this post was actually very truthful when it comes to terms about the increase in violence everywhere and at school. I think it’s the way people are letting the kids act in school really. Sure kids my age will always be a little on the edge when it comes to behavior but some of the acts of violence and bullying seem to go quite unnoticed a lot of the time and I think that can develop a violent behavior in someone. I’m 16 and am currently in 11th grade I used to get made fun of constantly (sometimes even physically abused). Every day in fact, and for most of my life, because I used to be very unhealthy and well, not small. And about a year and a half ago I made the decision I was done with that. So, over the course of about a year and half I lost over 100 pounds through hard work and eating healthy. I’m now fit, happy, and healthy. But I still have some reminiscent anger towards those who constantly made fun of me and made my life miserable. Now, I do want to just address that I do have control over my anger and have no doubt in my mind that the small reminiscence will go away in time, simply because I am who I am. But what about other people who are still experiencing what I experienced? They could develop serious anger problems or suicidal problems specifically because of the cruelty of others and teachers letting it go unnoticed. I’m not the one to typically get too much into this but this post definitely struck a cord for me. So I think your making a great approach on this Carrie, people in the school system should definitely be a little more aware of this.

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Deliciously Organic December 19, 2012 at 7:42 am

Thank you for sharing Joshua. I’m sorry to hear of how you were treated, but am glad that you have taken active steps to let go of your anger. It takes a lot of maturity to forgive. Now you can use what you’ve learned to help others. And, what a joy it is to help those in need. Congratulations on your weight loss! That is no small feat!

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Niki December 18, 2012 at 4:06 pm

I agree. Until careful root causal analysis is done at great length, efforts will be bandaids… treatments of symptoms rather than understanding the true cause. We have much to learn together as a culture.

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Jolene December 18, 2012 at 7:40 pm

Hi Carrie, this is the best post I have read relating to Friday’s tragedy. You are spot on about the need to get to the root of the problem and look at the way that society as a whole is in some way responsible for such events. Great list of resources, I think I will check them out!

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Deliciously Organic December 19, 2012 at 7:46 am

Thank you, Jolene.

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Tamara December 18, 2012 at 10:41 pm

The answer is there, the problem however is people only want to point the finger at what they feel is the obvious cause. If you look back on all the attacks, and the people who caused them, you will see one solid connection; anti-depressants. Not guns, not video games, not poor parenting, but anti-depressants. The root cause is right there- there is documentation, study after study showing that these medications prescribed to “help” people have nasty side effects.

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Deliciously Organic December 19, 2012 at 7:46 am

It’s true. Many are pointing the finger at what they feel is the obvious. It’s interesting that every shooter worldwide has been linked to antidepressants – I’ll definitely go check out those studies. While on the topic of “getting to the heard of the issue” one might want to ask, “Why were all of these people on antidepressants? Why were they depressed? Was it their family? Friends?”. I think if we can answer that question, it might give us more insight to the root issue.

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Marla December 19, 2012 at 5:51 am

You have referenced so many great books during this time or mourning and deep confusion. Thank you.

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HeatherChristo December 19, 2012 at 6:42 am

Thank you Carrie for posting these books and for initiating a deeper look at what the causes of these type of senseless tragedies. There is no way gun control alone can help. We also need to make major changes in the way our society deals (and helps!!!) with mental illness.

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Dawn December 19, 2012 at 8:54 am

I couldn’t agree more. In my search for understanding of what drove this young man to such unspeakable acts, I stumbled across a documentary highlighting mothers whose children became psychotic and suicidal after being put on psychiatric drugs. The events of last Friday became more horrific as I learned that nearly all murder-suicide school shootings in the last few decades have been committed by people on psychiatric “medication”. My heart goes out to every parent who lost their child last Friday, and to the children whose lives were stolen by recklessly prescribed drugs that may have driven them into psychosis.
If anyone wants to watch the documentary, it’s called “Dead Wrong: How Psychiatric Drugs Can Kill Your Child”, and is available on youtube at: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nsklIiAI5SE
The needless loss of life, and the devastation of so many families, breaks my heart. When will enough be enough?

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Jen December 19, 2012 at 9:02 am

What about the fact that we have taken God, prayer, the ten commandments out of our schools? Those precious surviving children are so scarred.

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Nikki December 19, 2012 at 9:28 am

Why are people on anti-depressants? If we take the same natural path back to the root, we have to look at the devastating effect of our processed, nutrient-deficient foods. Our bodies cannot produce what it needs to stabilize our moods. Add to that pharmaceuticals and we have an epidemic. Toxins, intolerances, etc. all affect each individual differently. We all have predispositions to what will occur if we don’t take care of our bodies. For me, gluten caused digestive distress that led to leaky gut. I was also very depressed. I am on the road to recovery and feeling much better.

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Kelly @ The Nourishing Home December 19, 2012 at 9:56 am

Helping those at-risk for violence is certainly God’s desire, and as such, we should do everything possible to help, as well as reach out in love to help the suffering victims.

Yet, we must acknowledge that the real and eternal answer to violence, pain, suffering, loss, hurt … is to seek the Lord God with all our hearts, minds, souls and strength.

In His great love, the Lord God provided His beloved Son – God incarnate – Jesus Christ, who took on human flesh to live the life of sinless perfection that none of us can and to take the just punishment for sin on our behalf. Let us never forget the horrific violence He endured – the King of Kings, the precious, innocent lamb of God – beaten, tortured, mocked, scoffed at, nailed to a cross. Be assured that God knows the immense pain of suffering and loss, and He alone provides the answer.

When we realize the sin in all of our lives – living for ourselves instead of living for the King of Kings – and we embrace the forgiveness offered through His precious atonement for our sins, we can be freed from the shackles of sin to live with joy in Him and find peace in Him amid the chaos of this sinful world, knowing that soon He will come again to take His own home to eternal glory, where there will be no pain, weeping or sorrows. All wrongs will be made right, all injustice will see justice and we will eternally live with Him joyfully praising Him – worthy is the Lamb who bore sin and death on our behalf.

As new creations in Christ (desiring to conform more and more into His image), we can then be His instruments and tools for helping the hurting – not by the simple patching-up of a heart with manmade wisdom and answers, but by the full, complete healing that can only come from the the Lord Jesus Christ.

My daily prayer is that many hearts will turn toward real healing and eternal peace in Christ. And in terms of practically reaching out in love, many of us bloggers are gathering together online to encourage all our readers to write letters of encouragement to those in Newton who are suffering.

If you’d like to reach out to these hurting families, you can send your letters to:
Newtown Youth and Family Services
15 Berkshire Road
Sandy Hook, CT 06482

I also encourage everyone who has a heart for encouragement to stop by TheMomInitiative.com and pay tribute to those who were killed in this terrible tragedy and to the families who lost loved ones. You can add your thoughts, prayers and encouragement in the comment section over there and they will be compiled and sent to the families.

Blessings and love in Christ, Kelly

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Jane December 19, 2012 at 3:52 pm

Carrie, your article, ideas, and suggestions are all terrific — as are the comments of your readers who are all addressing food issues in some form. I was celiac for 55 years before diagnosis and have also learned that corn was poisoning me. Many doctors wanted to — and did prescribe — antidepressents for me. They as well as the other psychotic drugs are causing these problems. We need to get back to the basics of not only eating as our ancestors did, but caring for each other. The epidemic of narcissim is also doing such harm. It truly does begin with each one of us. Listen and look at those around you! Everyone needs the human touch, and it may seem over-simplified, but I think a little could go a long way. Your books sound amazing, and this word needs to be spread. Thank you all for your thoughtful comments. And eat well! Jane

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Suzanne December 20, 2012 at 9:58 am

Jane, I was so touch by your words. It is so true. If everyone just reached out to one person today, by the way of a smile, a helping hand or a simple hello. It can make all the difference in somebody’s day. It’s the little things that change the world!

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Jane December 20, 2012 at 4:20 pm

Thanks, Suzanne. I have thought for years of putting “Nobody’s Listening” on a T-Shirt. Maybe it’s time! And your comments made my day. Jane

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Shell January 19, 2013 at 5:56 pm

I was just wondering about your comment regarding your children’s Ezcema. My 1 and 1/2 year old boy has a rash that goes from quite faded to quite brilliant red as the day goes on, behind his knees and on his hip buttock area….can you please talk a little further about feeding thm more nourishing foods to improve their condition? I try to do this…and I lower the dairy and gluten but still the rash persists..
Thank you and I do so enjoy your website….very much do….
Thank you to helping us all keep ourselves and our families a little healthier..

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Deliciously Organic January 22, 2013 at 9:44 am

I moved away from all processed foods and started feeding them a diet rich in pastured meats, vegetables, good fats (butter, coconut oil, ghee, etc.), and raw dairy. We noticed lots of improvement, but as soon as we made the change to raw diary, we never saw a single sign of eczema again (I understand raw milk is a controversial topic, but after we read all of the studies, we decided it was best for our family – http://www.realmilk.com). I know this is pretty basic, but since I’m not a nutritionist, I can’t give out specific advice. If you’d like to talk to a holistic nutritionist, my nutritionist’s office does phone and skype sessions and they have helped me immensely!! http://www.biodynamicwellness.com

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shell January 29, 2013 at 4:08 pm

thank you so much…i may contact them as we have nothing like that in my small town….i have also seen a change for the better since we started dressing him in cotton only, no synthetics!! and many of the good foods you mentioned…and always love love love your food and recipes…keep up the good work! thanks again….you make a wonderful difference!!

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